Confronting the Communication Breakdown



Proverbs 24:3-4; Proverbs 3:7; Romans 12:2; Proverbs 18:13; Proverbs 13:17; Ephesians 4:29; Ephesians 4:15

 Reflection Questions

1.    Read Proverbs 13:17 and Proverbs 18:13. On a scale of 1 to 10, how well do you believe you communicate with your spouse? If you are not married, how well do you communicate with those who are dearest to you? How does the idea of trust play into your number (high or low)?

2.    Read Proverbs 24:3-4. Why do you think communication (understanding) is such a vital component to a healthy marriage?

3.    Read Ephesians 4:29. Why are we sometimes defensive when our spouses ask questions or inquire about our thoughts/actions? What brings about this type of guardedness?

4.    Read Ephesians 4:15. What does it mean to speak the truth in love? How can we sometimes speak the truth in such a way that it does not open the lines of communication? 

Going Further

Read Proverbs 3:7. Try the “Animal Challenge” game that Pastor Lonnie spoke of with your spouse. Write down what animal you would use to describe your spouse. Then write down what animal you would you use to describe yourself. When finished, talk about the answers with your spouse.

Read Romans 12:2. Go on a dinner date with your spouse. However, as you communicate during the meal follow these rules: You are not allowed to talk about children (if you have any), work, or any other subject that seems to dominate your marital conversations during the week. This will seem very hard at first! Stick to it in the initial uncomfortable stages and then discover the other things you would like to talk about that you may have been holding in.