Fighting Fair and Making Up



Mark 3:25; 1 Peter 5:5-7; James 1:19-20; Ephesians 4:32; James 5:16


Reflection Questions

1.    Read Mark 3:25. Do you think you typically fight fair in your marriage and other relationships? Why or why not?

2.    How have your relationships of influence growing up (parents, siblings, other family and friends, etc.) impacted how you disagree with your spouse and other loved ones? Were they healthy examples? Unhealthy examples? Mixed?

3.    Read 1 Peter 5:5-7. Why do you think we tend to fight against our marriages instead of fighting for our marriages? Looking at the Scripture from 1 Peter, what does pride have to do with the answer to the previous question? Why do you think God opposes the proud and favors the humble?

4.    Read James 1:19-20. James says “everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry…” Which of these three do you struggle with the most? Which of these three do you think you do well?

5.    What principles from the scripture passages and the message can you apply to your marriage (and any other relationship)? What will fighting fair look like in your own life?

Going Further

Read Ephesians 4:32 and James 5:16. Individually, reflect on how you fight with your spouse (or other relationships). Do you think you fight fair? Unfair? Then, as a couple, sit down and commit to fighting fair in the future. Forgive one another of any old grudges and commit to handling conflict with compassion going forward.